Unlike other psychological approaches, Narukin psychology is different in thatTo deal with emotions, use logic instead of fighting back with emotions.We recommend doing this.
Let me give you an example. When you do something big (like bungee jumping) or something that feels embarrassing (like confessing your feelings to someone you like)Have you ever felt like, "I don't have the courage to do XX..."?
What happens inside your mind when you jump off a bungee jump?
<General psychological interpretation>
Having courage → Being able to bungee jump
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<Generalizing that structure>
Having courage → Being able to do scary things
So, what exactly is this "courage"? In other words, what is the true nature of courage?
What is the true nature of "courage"?
The dictionary lists it as follows:
The courage to face a challenge without hesitation.
If this logic (having courage allows you to do scary things) holds true for a bungee jump challenge, then "courage" is absolutely necessary to jump,Where does that courage come from?
Also,Where exactly does that "spirit to face challenges without hesitation" come from?If it's not within me right now, where will it come from?
It seems that many people understand that they just need to be brave, but they can't muster that crucial courage.
Narukin Psychology reveals the true nature of "courage"
”"General psychology"”と”"Narcissistic Psychology"”Let's compare them.
Narukin psychology posits the following:
<Narcine Psychology>
Once you've decided to jump, just jump without thinking about anything else!
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<Generalizing that structure>
For now, do (something)
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Things have come true!
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The bungee jump was over,I interpret it retrospectively as me having courage.
(*Post-hoc: already realized or confirmed. Antonym;Prior)
Narukin psychology does not believe that "courage" is necessary (to bungee jump).In other wordsDon't think, "I don't have courage, so I can't bungee jump."That's right.
You don't need "courage" to bungee jump.
Instead of waiting for the courage to "bungee jump" to arise or be acquired,If you can understand in your head that "you won't get a single scratch even if you bungee jump," then you can ignore the fear you feel."Just jump off" is recommended.I will.
Instead of "fighting" fear with courage, "ignore" fear.That's what you should do.The fear of jumping doesn't physically cut you to pieces, so you ignore it. You don't think of it as requiring "courage."Ignore both "fear" and "courage." That way, you can at least jump.
Now, considering all of the above, what would happen if you jumped off a bungee jumper? Let's try to structure it. (By structuring things abstractly, it becomes possible to apply this to things other than bungee jumping, which is very useful.)
<What was going through my mind when I jumped off a bungee jump>
Jumping off a bungee jumper
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I looked back on my actions and realized that I had jumped.
(*Post-hoc: already realized or confirmed. Antonym: Prior)
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To retrospectively discover that one has the courage to jump.
This means...
<Structuring Narukin Psychology>
Take action
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It can be done
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Realizing the situation in which the event has come to fruition, and becoming aware of oneself within that situation.
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The brain mistakenly perceives that you are in that situation as a sign of courage.
This is the result.My brain rationalizes that I was able to jump in that situation (bungee jumping) because "I had courage."That's right.Yes, you've now become a brave person.
In Narukin psychology, the opposite is true:
The situation of not being able to bungee jump and myself in that situationto find
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I discovered after the fact that I lacked courage.
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The brain mistakenly believes that you cannot overcome fear because you "lack courage."
The courage to eat extremely spicy kimchi
Let's look at another example.
Let's say you and your group of friends decide to take on a challenge to eat extremely spicy kimchi. Your friends all scream, "Wow, it's so spicy!" after eating it, and they're sweating profusely. You don't have the courage to do it.
For now, let's stop searching for courage, which we don't know where to find.Ignoring my fear, I'll try eating it anyway.
As expected, the kimchi was extremely spicy.However, after you finish eating and drink water,You realize you're there after you've finished eating. You discover afterward that you had the courage to eat it all (Wow, I can totally eat that much!).)Perhaps, on your first try, you enjoyed the extremely spicy food more than your other friends.
Thus,You discover yourself in retrospect.。 To truly understand yourself, "challenging yourself is the most important thing."”Is that what you mean?
I have explained the true nature of courage above, but let's delve a little deeper from there."Is 'courage' truly necessary when taking action?"This is explained in the following article ↓
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