How to get along well with Judging type (J type) and Perceiving type (P type)

16-Type Personality TestWhen you receive it, yourPersonality traits*I understand that, but among themHow to interact with people who have completely opposite characteristics: Judging type (J type) and Perceiving type (P type)I will explain this.
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How to get along well with someone who has a different lifestyle

ＪThe (normative) type seeks opinions, plans, and schedules for everything.ＰIt confuses the (flexible) type.

on the other hand,ＰLeaving aside matters of life and death—or even matters of life and death at times—we can deal with them calmly and leave them to chance.ＪForcing a certain taste upon someone.

I'm not saying one tendency is right or wrong.

ＪThe style makes you feel like you should relax and not turn everything into a major problem.ＰA mold is needed,ＰThe pattern helps you to be reasonably neat and complete things to the end.ＪA mold is needed.

The normative (J) type and the flexible (P) type tend to show themselves.

Ｊtype andＰThis personality type is the one most likely to create tension in interpersonal relationships, but why is that?

One reason is that, unlike the other three pairs of tendencies, it's a tendency that tends to manifest itself in everyday life.
This suggests that it can easily have a significant impact on interpersonal relationships.

• for example,ＰLet's look at three ways to describe types.
  • "I saw Fellini's new film."
  • "That Fellini film is quite popular, isn't it?"
  • "It's the opening day of Fellini's film."

None of these comments reflect the person's personal opinion. We have no idea what they think of Federico Fellini, or how they evaluate his films. They simply describe the situation without adding any judgment.

• next,ＪHere are three ways to describe the type.
  • "Fellini's films are a bit long, but they're wonderfully made."
  • "I think Fellini's next film will win an Oscar."
  • "You should definitely see Fellini's new film."

All of these comments clearly show what people think of Fellini's new film.ＰCompared to the type, it's quite definitive.

ＪA man of this type at homeＰI've tried to adopt a certain type of behavior before.
Instead of making a decision immediately, I decided to "gather information" and then come up with an answer based on that information.

He said to his wife in the living room, "How about some peaches for a late-night snack?"
In contrast to thatＰThe wife of the type responded, "It's been quite a while since we've had peaches." (This is, of course, an understanding, not a judgment.)

The husband, who was in the kitchen, asked for a decision on his proposal.ＪI was annoyed because it was a bad pattern.

"Don't state the obvious," he said sarcastically, then closed the refrigerator door and left, muttering to himself, "If you want to eat, eat it yourself."

As expected, after about 10 minutes, my wife asked, "What happened to the peaches?"

this isＪtype andＰThis is a typical example of this type of communication. More precisely, it's a communication breakdown.

ＪIn response to the type requesting a judgment,ＰThe pattern was merely an expression of understanding—though that understanding implied a "yes" (if she didn't want to eat them, she would have replied, "We ate plenty of peaches the other day").

This kind of frustration disrupts everyday life.ＰThe type isＪPeople tend to think of this type as unpleasant, dogmatic, and narrow-minded.
ＪThe type isＰI think the format is incredibly disorganized and lacks focus.

The key is balance.Ｊtype andＰNeither type should be too strong.

problem solving

• ＪType:
  • Don't assume you're always right. It's hard to believe, but if you want to resolve conflicts, this is crucial.
    ＪThis type of person tends to want everything to be either black or white, right or wrong, and has difficulty accepting opposing viewpoints.
    It's difficult to reach an agreement with someone who also believes they are right.
• ＰType:
  • Make your position clear.ＰI often find myself agreeing with both sides of the argument regarding the model, as I see both valid points.
    Sometimes this manifests as deliberately taking the opposite stance.
    While flexible and adaptable, this doesn't necessarily help solve problems. In fact, it can sometimes even fuel controversy.
    If you have an opinion you hold, it's best to clearly define your position and defend it.