How Thinking (T-type) and Feeling (F-type) People Can Get Along Well

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How to get along with someone who has a different way of making decisions

If it gets worse,Ｔ(Thinking) typeＦI thought the (emotional) type was irresponsible.ＦThe type isＴThe mold feels cold.

But, if all goes well,ＴThe type makes objective decisions in any situation.ＦThe type of decision is one that takes into account how the people affected by it will perceive it.

However, when it comes to internal matters,Ｔtype andＦThe dynamics often clash, negative emotions tend to linger, problems remain unresolved, and dissatisfaction is very common on both sides.

Decision-making methods of thinking (T) types and feeling (F) types

When a child says they want to use the car,ＴFather of formＦLet's look at how mothers of this type make decisions.

It had been decided a week in advance that my teenage daughter would use the car to go to a party on Friday night.
However, unfortunately, heavy snowfall brought new "data" indicating poor road conditions, forcing us to reconsider our plans.

Even if the same conclusion is reached at this point,Ｔtype andＦThe methods for making decisions differ depending on the type, and even if the same decision-making methods are used, completely opposite conclusions can be reached.

Ｔtype andＦThe defining characteristics of a personality type become apparent in the process they take to make a decision.

• If you agree to use a carＴType:
  • Let's both learn from this experience. In parenting, parents learn to take risks, and children learn to take responsibility and grow as a result.
    This will be practice for letting go of my daughter when she leaves home. In my calculations, the benefits of learning together outweigh the risks.
  ＦType:
  • I wouldn't like it if my car was taken away without regard for my feelings.
    My daughter also said, "I was planning to go by car, but it would be awkward if I had to ask a friend for a ride."
    If I were your daughter, I would be so disappointed, I'm sure of it.
    I could never be that insensitive.
• If you are against using a carT type：
  • Being a parent is a demanding role, and it often involves making difficult decisions.
    I can't always make decisions that everyone likes, and sometimes I end up causing unpleasant feelings.
    However, being a "well-liked parent" is not the only role expected of me.
    As parents, we must set a good example and make responsible decisions that are in everyone's best interest.
  F type：
  • It reminds me of when I was a teenager. My parents used to tell me that because they loved me, they couldn't always let me have my way.
    I was disappointed and hurt at the time, but once I recovered from the shock, I realized that they had been thinking about what would be best for me and that they were worried about me.
    This time, too, because I love you, I can't let you use the car.

In this example,ＴThe model is objective and observes from a distance,ＦThe mold is completely wrapped up.

Both are worried, thinking, and feeling, but the paths they take to reach their final conclusions are extremely different.

problem solving

• ＴType:
  • I'll forgive you for being honest about your feelings.ＴThis type of person becomes distant when someone starts yelling at work.
    Even when you show affection or offer kind words, they still try to keep their distance. However, expressing emotions in this way, not just in the workplace but anywhere, is inextricably linked to resolving conflict.
    Even if you yourself cannot express your emotions outwardly, you should allow others to do so freely.
• ＦType:
  • Respond frankly. Saying what you really want to say, even if it's a dissenting opinion, isn't the end of the world.
    Even if you think saying something like this might be offensive, other types of people might not take it so badly.
    On the contrary, they sometimes appreciate and respect your honesty. Even if you let your emotions show, you don't feel the need to apologize or think you've done anything wrong.
    Being honest about your feelings can lead to a constructive solution.