Benefit Relationship in 16 Personality Types

Reference: 16 Personality Type Theory (modified)

• INFP > INTJ > ISTP > ISFJ > INFP
• INFJ > ISFP > ISTJ > INTP > INFJ
• ENFP > ESFJ > ESTP > ENTJ > ENFP
• ENFJ > ENTP > ESTJ > ESFP > ENFJ

This relationship is asymmetrical, with one party always superior to the other, teaching and guiding them. However, it is a very beneficial and meaningful relationship for both parties.

In reality, even those in a superior position have much to learn from their opponents, but it takes considerable maturity to realize this.

Here,

The one who bestows the benefit... Teacher
Those who receive the benefit... students

Let's call it that.

From the very beginning of their acquaintance, students are impressed and amazed when they see their teacher effortlessly accomplish things that they themselves find difficult and tend to overthink. They may even praise their teacher out loud. They are so impressed by how easily their teacher can do these things that their praise may become exaggerated.

Students realize that there is much to learn from their teachers' perspectives, ways of thinking, feelings, and attitudes.

At the same time, students notice the teacher's weaknesses and shortcomings, and want to help. However, the teacher may not consider these points important and refuse to accept the student's help. There's a reason for this.

Let's take the relationship between an ENFJ (teacher) and an ENTP (student) as an example to illustrate this point.

The third psychological function of ENTPs is extroverted feeling, and they value harmony in relationships. However, they often struggle to do so. Their challenge lies in behaving appropriately for the situation, being emotionally expressive, motivating those around them, and building successful cooperative relationships.

On the other hand, the primary psychological function of an ENFJ is extroverted feeling, and they effortlessly handle things that are challenging for an ENTP, which is their strength.

Furthermore, while ENTPs' primary psychological function is extroverted intuition, this has the drawback of being rambling and not getting to the point. However, ENFJs have introverted intuition as their secondary psychological function, allowing them to see the essence of things while still getting to the heart of the matter.

Because ENFJs have introverted intuition as their secondary psychological function, they are unlikely to feel a particularly strong envy towards the intuition of ENTPs. Rather, ENFJs unconsciously tend to suppress the function of their extroverted intuition. As a result, ENFJs tend to overlook the merits of the extroverted intuition that ENTPs use.

As a result, ENTPs often end up learning a lot from ENFJs, albeit unilaterally.

On the other hand, introverted thinking is a fourth psychological function that ENFJs unconsciously suppress.

Introverted thinking and extroverted intuition are strengths of ENTPs, and naturally, these tend to stand out as weaknesses of ENFJs.

However, ENFJs have established ways to get by by utilizing other cognitive functions, so they rarely accept the goodwill of ENTPs. Rather, they may even feel aversion towards ENTPs' detached, cold, and unempathetic attitude.

ENFJs often have difficulty understanding the positive qualities of ENTPs. Needless to say, this doesn't sit well with ENTPs.

The third psychological function of an ENFJ is extroverted sensing, and they desire to learn from and complement others. However, since ENTPs use extroverted intuition, this desire cannot be fulfilled.

In this way, ENFJs become the ones who give benefits to ENTPs, and ENTPs become the ones who receive benefits from ENFJs.

Of course, the same explanation can be applied to other types in this relationship, depending on the psychological functions they utilize.

Teachers are in a superior position to their students. However, they do more than that; they actively try to help students with things they struggle with and protect them from common mistakes. It seems that no one else is capable of doing such things.

Students respect their teachers. Indeed, students can greatly benefit from this relationship and achieve significant personal growth.

Thus, the relationship becomes one of great significance to both parties. Therefore, despite its asymmetrical nature, a very strong bond is formed.

Eventually, students grow up and you start to think there's nothing more to learn. This is also an illusion, but at that point, the relationship gradually begins to cool down.

Conversely, things go wrong when students try to be overly helpful and offer advice to their teachers.

In fact, in this relationship, teachers often learn more from their students.

This is because students utilize the fourth psychological function, which teachers often suppress, as their second psychological function, thereby demonstrating its strengths. There is much to learn from this regarding common mistakes, failures, and weaknesses that teachers tend to fall into.

However, the fourth psychological function only develops and its advantages become apparent after it has matured smoothly. Until then, teachers often fail to realize that they have much to learn from their students.

Understanding and keeping this in mind will allow both parties to build an even better relationship.

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*This compatibility explanation is,16-Type Personality TestThis was created based on the theory of [the subject].